In contrast, a woman can end up with some weird stalker, pervert or predator of some type. I was very disappointed but I said no thanks immediately.Unfortunately, 15-20 years ago I would have either bargained or given in.If these guys continue to push....delete and block them. (The program doesn't even need to be downloaded to be used.)Advice to fellow guys.
The problem is I already indicated that I don’t use any type of messenger and prefer to get to know people through POF e-mail as we are doing right now and/or to meet in person.Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...Bottom line...always respect her concern over her safety, etc.The worse that can happen to us guys is we end up with the date from Hell..least it makes a good story.I got red flags when he said "I will like you to take the time to download yahoo messenger." And his profile did not seem the type to make that error. I figured out my own little diabolical means of dealing with nigerian-esque scammers.When I start receiving emails with pictures of russian models, I start sending pictures of the african actors in the movie "the gods must be crazy", and claiming it is stuff.This means communicating on her terms and meeting at a time and place of her liking.There's nothing wrong with suggesting a means of communicatioin but always add something like 'if you are comfortable with it'.If they can't be bothered to formulate well constructed sentences with polysyllabic words with care and patience, then they don't deserve your attention. I agree that IM or videochat is good to further scope out the guy and to "communicate in real time" as Serendipity said.The onus is on you to reject them, for it is not your wish to converse with such people. But truly, after seeing the same pattern of scammers for 5 years on the pay sites, I see them using Yahoo Messenger almost exclusively.