When you own who you are now, you’ll be in a much better place to be in a truthful, honest, open relationship.”.
“Forty percent of the American population is shy,” according to Dr.
Hitting the dating scene in your fifth decade can feel so… After all, there are likely to be children in the picture, and behind every potential partner is a sheer lifetime of romantic experience (and a much, much longer trail of exes). In fact, if you’re dating as a forty-something, you’re guaranteed to be wiser, better at dating, better at knowing what you want, and a lot less impulsive and sensitive to rejection.
That said, if you’re recently single for the first time in a long time, you may not know where to begin.
“That’s millions of guys who seldom meet women because they are too shy.
I’ve found some women get frustrated with the ‘I have the kids this weekend’ scenario because it can dampen their spontaneity and they lose that one-on-one time that’s so important when dating, but it also might mean that the following weekend is a ‘child-free’ weekend.” “So many women (and some men) think they know their boundaries and yet accept unreasonable demands when they think they meet ‘the one,’” Zuckerman explains.
“If you are accepting the unacceptable, over time it is a recipe for disaster!
I recommend that women form a ‘committee’ of trusted advisers to help them to navigate all of the difficulties of the process of finding another mate,” Drenner says.
“These committee members can help identify areas of concern and help to prevent mistakes.” In other words, go ahead and ask your friends and family what they think of your new potential partners, and encourage them to be honest.