Your spouse changed but you couldn’t quite explain the changes in a way that seemed to make sense to anyone else.
You thought that you were imagining things, being insecure in thinking your spouse had someone else.
Your carefree smile — with no undertones of resentment or disappointment — will remind your husband of the girl he pursued so creatively when you were dating. When I was dating my husband, he wrote me lots and lots of letters.
That really stole my heart, because I’m a big letter writer myself, and I loved the fact that we shared this in common.
Please just accept the fact that you are in the midst of a demanding time of life, but that all those challenges will eventually pass (to inevitably be replaced by new ones). Your husband may even rediscover the creativity he put to such good use when you were dating.
In the meantime, I would recommend that you stop hinting and start acting.
Then you began to vacillate, worrying that you must be right but telling yourself that surely you aren’t.
I’d trade all the romance and creativity and correspondence that characterized our dating for the “mundane” pleasures of married life in a heartbeat.) Nevertheless, that has not always been my attitude.Line up the free babysitting and make it a night to remember.Let yourself enjoy it just as thoroughly as if he had planned it instead of you.But although they divorced in August last year, Ms Malpas says their relationship remains amicable.She is currently single and insists that she has no time to get involved in a relationship.If you are desperate for a date night with your husband, go ahead and plan one yourself.Tell him that it’s important to you, but that you know he’s busy with school and are more than happy to make the necessary arrangements, so what day would work best for his schedule?What do I do when my husband doesn’t see eye-to-eye with me on cultivating our marriage? I have brought to my husband’s attention numerous times (in playful ways, trying not to nag) that I would love to go on a date with him again (I can’t remember the last time we did), spend some time alone, that I need some romance in my life. He is only really amorous when he or I initiate intimacy. I’ve been thinking about you a lot and praying for your situation.His response is generally a chuckle followed by a comment that we will “when we have the money.” It’s been a couple months now… We have friends I know would watch our son for free (we’ve done the same for them)…but I fear that if I give up on him initiating this and make all the plans myself, I will just resent him for not “being the man” and doing it himself. I pray about it and ask God to make this a priority to him…. Reading between the lines of your letter [abridged for this post], I can almost hear you thinking things like this: Let me just say that all these thoughts are lies straight from the pit of Hell. Satan is trying to blind you to the wonderful things your husband is doing, by focusing your attention on what he isn’t doing.Thank you so much for making this happen.” They both knew it wouldn’t have happened otherwise, as the responsibilities of running a busy practice would have convinced him he couldn’t take time away.But she also knew that making that time was important for both of them, and in the long run, it really didn’t matter who made the reservations.