In As for how, exactly, to go about making the friend’s-ex-fantasy thing a reality in the most considerate and respectful way possible, Dr.
Twist recommends that you talk to your friend first.
Once you've considered those factors, and hooking up with a friend’s ex is still somehow on the table, there are several things to understand before diving into a Kardashian-level web of potential friendship conflict.
If the friend does have a problem with this, the choice to mess up the squad is completely up to you.
Also, it’s essential to acknowledge that regardless if the potential new relationship ends up being a hookup or a full-on dating thing, it’s going to be weird, because there’s no getting around you both know each other.
Be prepared to let the ex-hookup fantasy fade away in order to maintain the friendship. Depending on who you are and where you live, hooking up with a friend’s ex may not be that big of a deal.
An in-person conversation is ideal, but a phone call is the very least you can do — so don’t even think about texting, “Hey BFF, just want to let u know me and ur ex are dating.” No one likes a conversation that starts with the question, “What are we?
” But we’re not talking about a normal relationship here.