I know that some amputees may not be comfortable with being asked personal questions regarding their disability.
However, this goes hand-in-hand with self-acceptance. In the past, I’ve heard that some amputees encounter “weirdos” – or strange people who have a fetish for limb loss. Every person is different, and we can’t make a generalization regarding how people view amputees when it comes to dating.
I tell them because I’m now very comfortable with who I am.
I start out by telling them that I’m an amputee – sometimes people assume that I hurt my legs, that I’m wearing leg braces, that I have issues with walking in general, etc. I think it’s important for amputees to realize that people are genuinely curious, and that some people care to know how your amputation has played a role in your daily life.
In fact, my disability has pushed me to thrive in the academic, professional, and social aspects of my life.
Although I’ve never been in a relationship, I have many experiences and I’m happy to share my story of what it’s like dating as a female amputee.
I didn’t grow up with any amputees and I barely know any personally, so I feel like it would be a very different experience. Some amputees may want to date someone just like them, because they’ll feel that that person truly understands their situation.Being comfortable and open about yourself as an amputee can possibly help the other person feel more comfortable, too.I personally prefer to inform men about my disability and how I became an amputee, prior to the first date.There are definitely people out there who make subconscious judgments or have internal thoughts regarding amputees. However, having self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-acceptance can go a long way.I believe that it can truly change the perspective of people that you get to know or go on dates with.Being an amputee, I feel that relationships and marriage shouldn’t only consist of love and care; they should also consist of perseverance, empathy, and understanding.When I don’t have my prosthetic legs on, I’m much shorter.And then there are those who won’t shy away – they may approach you and address your disability straight on, ask questions, or compliment you regarding your resilience. I’ve been asked several times if I would date another amputee.To be completely honest, I don’t know what it would be like.I used to think that no boy was ever going to like me since I was called “weird.” In high school, kids became mature about it.Nobody made fun of me; however, I wasn’t really flirted with much.