Communities exerted pressure on people to form pair-bonds in places such as Europe; in China, society "demanded people get married before having a sexual relationship" and many societies found that some formally recognized bond between a man and a woman was the best way of rearing and educating children as well as helping to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings regarding competition for mates.Generally, during much of recorded history of humans in civilization, and into the Middle Ages in Europe, weddings were seen as business arrangements between families, while romance was something that happened outside of marriage discreetly, such as covert meetings.You never respond to a “no” from her with a “no,” yourself – always with a “yes, but.” For example: PUA: “I feel like you spend a lot of time worrying about relationships.” Target: “Not really.” PUA: “Yes, but you know that there are many different types of relationships.We have a relationship with money,” (no reaction) “We have a relationship with our body and health.” Target: “Yes, I totally stress about my body too much! ” The use of so-called “awareness words” can help, as well.
The is to actually look at your target, and notice what you see. But if you make a habit of looking, and then you put together what you see with what you know or discover about people, you’ll become an expert in cold reading over time. If they agree, you say, “Yes, and …” and offer a second observation.Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage.It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others.This technique is extremely powerful and Knepper’s book has some great practical examples.Lastly, there’s a set of cold reads that are almost cheating.However, one particularity of the human species is that pair bonds are often formed without necessarily having the intention of reproduction.In modern times, emphasis on the institution of marriage, generally described as a male-female bond, has obscured pair bonds formed by same-sex and transsexual couples, and that many heterosexual couples also bond for life without offspring, or that often pairs that do have offspring separate.Accordingly, there was little need for a temporary trial period such as dating before a permanent community-recognized union was formed between a man and a woman.While pair-bonds of varying forms were recognized by most societies as acceptable social arrangements, marriage was reserved for heterosexual pairings and had a transactional nature, where wives were in many cases a form of property being exchanged between father and husband, and who would have to serve the function of reproduction.Notice the use of “you know” in the response, above.Words like “see,” “notice,” and “know” make it easier for your target to agree with you.