Should women spend time, energy, and emotion on a man who may never be a part of their future?All too often women say to themselves or their friends: “Well, he wouldn’t commit in the past, but I’m different.In some ways the man who can't commit might be the one who suffers the greatest loss, because even after meeting "the one" — he remains afraid.I have spoken to many singles, I find that there are many men out there that cannot commit.If you are jumping through hoops for the commitment phobic man and thinking you can nurse him back to love – think again.Have you read this book from 2004 Men Who Can't Love?
“Phobia” is a word that carries a negative connotation, implying irrational, even neurotic, fear. If you or your partner feel unsettled at the idea of settling down, it may signal nothing more than the need to let more time go by before considering an exclusive relationship.
Just when you think you’ve got one in your sights—you don’t.
If this reminds you of your romantic relationship—a constant game of “catch-me-if-you-can”—then you may be involved with someone who suffers from commitment phobia. Whether you’re hiding in the holes or holding the hammer wishing your partner would just stand still for a second, this article is for you.
In a way, it is loving the Other, but not loving the Self.
Moving a relationship from the “just dating” phase to the next level can feel like a round of “Whack-a-mole.” That’s a popular arcade game in which the player stands in front of a machine with a flat top the size of a small kitchen table.