“Even if I know what he says is right, what can I do? “Can I use my own power to fight against a clique like this?
She agrees with his theory that China’s government policies contributed to those incidents, but not with his policy of publicly complaining about it.The women of Beijing come from all over the country, drawn for professional opportunity and a more exciting life, and the city is full of sophisticated, successful women with high standards.Men are usually expected to buy an apartment before marriage – this tends to be a cost for the man’s family as a whole to bear, another reason male births are no longer seen as the be all and end all.When she told her father about the German, his response was “Be careful, he may be a spy.” She found later there was absolutely nothing to worry about, as the German showed little knowledge about China. He’s interested in China’s recent history and hopes to discuss it with Sally.But this isn’t a topic Sally feels comfortable talking about.But these discussions in part ended the relationship.Jean said her ex always criticized the Chinese government “with a set of democratic thinking,” and without putting the discussion “in the historical context.” When talking about the 1937 Nanjing Massacre, in which China claims 300,000 were killed by the Japanese army, for instance, her ex said “the Chinese government is not completely innocent.” He went on to challenge the death toll, even after Jean cited official documents, which annoyed her. “I understand democracy no less than him,” Jean said.The real “danger” of love between a Chinese woman and a foreign man is that it doesn’t ultimately go anywhere, the women I talked to said.The opposing political views of May Xu, 24, who works for a Spanish head hunting firm in Shanghai, and her Spanish ex-boyfriend, who she met at work, were reflected in just one sentence.In China as a whole, demographics mean that women tend to be in a strong position in the marriage stakes, as a preference for male children means there may be as many as 100 million men in China who will not be able to find wives.This is predominantly a rural phenomenon (in cities, where women are not needed for physical labor and society is changing fast, the girl/boy birth rate has essentially equalised), but spills over into the cities with migration.