Speaking badly about your ex is the perfect way to make the blood inside of you boil and the tension between the two of you uncomfortable.By making the effort to not gossip about your ex, you’ll make the situation better for you (and everyone else around you).The reality is that it’s unfair to expect a new phase of a relationship to work if you’re still holding on to the old aspects of it that made you upset.Give your mind (and heart) a break from this exhausting situation and remind yourself that closure comes from acceptance — instead of answers.Through dispersing the attention to other people besides you, you’ll most likely feel more at ease and willing to partake in socializing.Everyone has different ways of handling an uneasy scenario, and wanting the support of friends may be yours.And if you’re not, this is a step in the direction of healing that you’ve most likely been looking for.Not being able to avoid an ex also means not being able to avoid the conversation that’s bound to happen between the two of you.
At the end of the day they all have the same basic plot – there is an emergency and won’t you please send them some money?
Even though your initial reaction might be to remind your ex how he or she never cleaned the bathroom or how they were late to your anniversary dinner three years ago, your actual response should be to keep the conversation as light as possible.
Greet your ex with a smile, ask how they’ve been, laugh at their jokes, and be open to the idea that it’s possible to hold a friendly conversation with someone who was once more than that.
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Breakups vary for everyone, but the simple way to explain them is that they tend to be downright complicated.